How to make a wedding invitation with your style

About two months before your wedding, and right after having chosen the date, the place, the style and the formality of your wedding, it is time to think about the invitations.

Don’t forget that the invitations will take at least a month to prepare and print. You should take some time to choose the type of font and paper, the colours, symbols or stamps with your initials to seal the invitations. Here you must pay attention to the coherence between the invitations’ design and the cards indicating the localization of guests on the tables, at church and also the menus.

The invitations should, absolutely, reflect the style that you have chosen for your wedding, and consequently your personality as a couple. The invitation announces the new couple’s life, which might be formal, informal, elegant or funny.

When the ceremony takes place in a different place from the reception, it should include the different addresses or else you must send two different invitations for both events. When the reception doesn’t happen right after the ceremony, don’t forget to mention at what time it starts.

The invitation might also mention the kind of clothes to wear, right beneath the address. For example, if your wedding is a formal one, it must mention the use of a morning coat or a tuxedo.

Along with the wedding invitation you might send a small sample of your personal style, like a ribbon with your names printed on it. Imagine that you will celebrate your wedding with a tea party, instead of a formal dinner. You may add a small bag of flavoured tea to the invitation (but don’t forget to have it weighted at the post office, so that you don’t need to pay extra charges).

It is extremely important never to mention where you have registered your wedding lists. You can only mention them to those who ask you! Never mention some kind of title, like Dr., Eng., etc.

First, ask for a sample at the printing graphic and don’t forget to check dates, schedules, addresses and all the items before sending it to final print. Do not forget this detail so that you won’t have a headache afterwards. (Read article: “12 useful tips for saving money without losing the elegance”).

When you write on an invitation “We invite Mrs. X and Mr. Y and their family” it means that the whole family that lives in that house is invited.

When some of your friends are couples, but not married, that is if they don’t share the same last name, but live together, send an invitation separating the name of each in the same envelope. If they don’t live together, send two separate invitations. With a gay couple you should apply the same rules.

Along with the invitation, include a last element: a Direct Response Card (RSVP) together with an envelope and stamp, already addressed, and wait for an answer. In case you don’t receive an answer in the following month, get in touch with that guest because he may not have received the invitation. The RSVP card might be a card separated from the invitation, required in formal weddings. To save costs, you may print only one address for RSVP, so that the guest can answer the invitation on the back of the invitation itself, in case the wedding is not formal.

Tip: Direct Response Card (RSVP) - this acronym comes from a French expression that means “respondéz s’il vous plait”.

  • Basically, an invitation should contain 4 items:
  1. What the event is about;
  2. Who is making the invitation;
  3. Where and at what time it takes place;
  4. Address and telephone number for answering (RSVP).


  • What it must not contain: